UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

                                                             

Marriage is one of the greatest prides respectful and understanding couples should be delighted to make during life time. The question is, how many marriages have ever lasted longer enough till death brings separation?

According to Wikipedia, “Marriage also called Matrimony or Wedlock, is a socially or ritually recognized union between two people, also called spouses, that establishes rights and obligations between them and any resulting biological or adopted children...” No wonder Cambridge Advanced Learner’s Dictionary also described Marriage as “a legally accepted relationship between a woman and a man in which they live as husband and wife…”

Facts can be drawn from both quotations above that a happy marriage is not just something you find but something you make, and keep making continuously. Spouses who manage to stay together for two decades must have passed through ups and downs, fixed problematic situations amicably, avoided  external interference in their relationships; such a union is blessed and sealed for life.

Unhealthy relationship is absolutely undesirable since it is characterized by lack of love, respect, mutual understanding, loyalty, etc. The moment such dirty act is given a room in any matrimonial home, the chance of marriage break-up is already established. Different school of thoughts and analysts have attributed the rise in marriage break-ups to several factors. It is quite understood that the introduction of technology has its positive and negative effects in any relationship. Couples who cannot do without mobile gadgets need to understand the fact that some information of vital importance could be assessed by either of them. Unrecognized caller could also bring an uneasy situation.

Social media are of great importance when it comes to interacting with one another in sharing of information, content or other series of expressive ideas. But its pros and cons in marital life cannot be over-looked.

Money is an integral part of any relationship. However, if love is shown under the pretense of partner’s money, what if the money suddenly disappear? Money is something that could finish – it comes and goes. But true love stays and brings the joy money can’t buy. A materialistic relationship is unhealthy and it doesn’t last longer.

Unpleasant economic situation has had a devastating consequence in some homes, thereby incapacitating the husbands to unusually offer little or nothing. If the patience of the economic pains is unbearably exhausted to the point of seeking for greener pastures, a sense of doom hang over the relationship.

Forced marriage resulting from parent’s interference gives little or no chance for couple’s preferable choice. Parent’s decision on whom to marry based on family background, wealth, culture, religion, etc. have contributed in no smaller amount to marriage failure. However, parents should be respected and taken care of. They can offer their piece of advice. But this does not give them the right to barge into married life of their children.

In this competitive and technological World, keeping your relationship clean and strong is strikingly important in any blessed marriage. When necessary, couples should be able to go out and probably drink coffee and have launches together, or have other exciting fun that could positively boost their relationship. They should be able to find out what worries are keeping them up at night, and how they are feeling during the period of dazzling problems. It will be a healthy relationship if both husband and wife sincerely affirm to themselves that not only are they for each other at easy times,but during the tough ones. Meanwhile, being nice isn’t being weak. There is absolute need for both to acquaint themselves with being friendly and being firm, being compassionate and being courageous, being sincere and being strongly committed to their relationship. In addition, making the time each day in between your tight daily tasks to grow your relationship, offering your spouse a smile, a positive word, or caring gesture will definitely strengthen the relationship and keep your marriage intact.

In recapitulation, children are mostly affected in any broken home as they are poorly raised by single parent. They may not have manners enough to withstand the future challenges; hence the larger society bears the consequences. Intending couples are strongly advised to be naturally attracted to each other instead of basing their wedlock on superficial consideration like wealth, beauty, family background, whose ending will be bitterly disappointing if they no longer exist. Your relationship is yours, no one has the right to interfere in it. Not even the parents from both sides.