Marriage is one of the greatest prides
respectful and understanding couples should be delighted to make during life
time. The question is, how many marriages have ever lasted longer enough till
death brings separation?
According to Wikipedia, “Marriage
also called Matrimony or Wedlock, is a socially or ritually recognized union
between two people, also called spouses, that establishes rights and
obligations between them and any resulting biological or adopted children...”
No wonder Cambridge Advanced Learner’s Dictionary also described Marriage as “a
legally accepted relationship between a woman and a man in which they live as
husband and wife…”
Facts can be drawn from both
quotations above that a happy marriage is not just something you find but
something you make, and keep making continuously. Spouses who manage to stay
together for two decades must have passed through ups and downs, fixed
problematic situations amicably, avoided
external interference in their relationships; such a union is blessed
and sealed for life.
Unhealthy relationship is absolutely
undesirable since it is characterized by lack of love, respect, mutual
understanding, loyalty, etc. The moment such dirty act is given a room in any
matrimonial home, the chance of marriage break-up is already established.
Different school of thoughts and analysts have attributed the rise in marriage
break-ups to several factors. It is quite understood that the introduction of
technology has its positive and negative effects in any relationship. Couples
who cannot do without mobile gadgets need to understand the fact that some
information of vital importance could be assessed by either of them.
Unrecognized caller could also bring an uneasy situation.
Social media are of great importance
when it comes to interacting with one another in sharing of information,
content or other series of expressive ideas. But its pros and cons in marital
life cannot be over-looked.
Money is an integral part of any
relationship. However, if love is shown under the pretense of partner’s money,
what if the money suddenly disappear? Money is something that could finish – it
comes and goes. But true love stays and brings the joy money can’t buy. A
materialistic relationship is unhealthy and it doesn’t last longer.
Unpleasant economic situation has had
a devastating consequence in some homes, thereby incapacitating the husbands to
unusually offer little or nothing. If the patience of the economic pains is
unbearably exhausted to the point of seeking for greener pastures, a sense of
doom hang over the relationship.
Forced marriage resulting from parent’s
interference gives little or no chance for couple’s preferable choice. Parent’s
decision on whom to marry based on family background, wealth, culture,
religion, etc. have contributed in no smaller amount to marriage failure.
However, parents should be respected and taken care of. They can offer their
piece of advice. But this does not give them the right to barge into married
life of their children.
In this competitive and technological
World, keeping your relationship clean and strong is strikingly important in
any blessed marriage. When necessary, couples should be able to go out and
probably drink coffee and have launches together, or have other exciting fun
that could positively boost their relationship. They should be able to find out
what worries are keeping them up at night, and how they are feeling during the
period of dazzling problems. It will be a healthy relationship if both husband
and wife sincerely affirm to themselves that not only are they for each other
at easy times,but during the tough ones. Meanwhile, being nice isn’t being
weak. There is absolute need for both to acquaint themselves with being
friendly and being firm, being compassionate and being courageous, being
sincere and being strongly committed to their relationship. In addition, making
the time each day in between your tight daily tasks to grow your relationship, offering your spouse a smile, a positive
word, or caring gesture will definitely strengthen the relationship and keep
your marriage intact.
In recapitulation, children are
mostly affected in any broken home as they are poorly raised by single parent.
They may not have manners enough to withstand the future challenges; hence the
larger society bears the consequences. Intending couples are strongly advised
to be naturally attracted to each other instead of basing their wedlock on
superficial consideration like wealth, beauty, family background, whose ending
will be bitterly disappointing if they no longer exist. Your relationship is
yours, no one has the right to interfere in it. Not even the parents from both
sides.
